budget madness

About 3 weeks ago our staff started going through Dave Ramsay’s Financial Peace University together and while its been good its also been so tough. Last night Beck and I sat down and spent about 10 minutes budgeting and 30 minutes fighting about the budget… what is that all about. Why is it that money is the main thing couples fight over and ultimately get divorced over. However during this fight we realized that we were arguing for the same thing we just were communicating it terribly. It’s true that men and women think differently but its even more true that we find security in different ways, especially when it comes down to money. Ultimately we found out that we were both wanting the same things, to have healthy finances, to give Bella what she needs, and to have a very healthy relationship which means not being stressed about money. I love how Dave puts it, he said

“As you learn to discuss major purchases and budgets and come to agreement, you are agreeing on your value system. When this happens, you will reach a unity in your marriage that you can experience no other way.”

Even though its only been a few weeks, I feel like this class is helping us more than just in our finances but in our relationship.